I realize this is a silly superficial question. I am taking my first TOB right now so understand there are different kinds of love and also a very special purpose to the nuptial union.
How important is attraction when getting to know someone? I understand that beauty fades as we get older. But in the beginning stages of a relationship, or even getting to know someone (with the intention of figuring out whether a relationship is possible), shouldn’t there be an initial attraction to someone, even if it is minimal?
I have been getting to know a very nice fellow from a dating site, and I am confused because while I like him on “soul” level, I do not find him physically attractive. There are also educational differences between us so how we discuss things are on different levels. He is very simple, and I don’t know what I think about that. I think he would make a very good boyfriend and husband but … it is very superficial. I don’t think I’ve gone down the chastity road to a point where I can’t find a man attractive because there are plenty of other men on the site who catch my eye. But this one doesn’t, and I don’t want to lose a good guy if it’s something I’ll learn to love - but it also feels wrong to take his time if I’m not fully drawn to him.