I honestly don’t know if this would be better posted in another forum but it is family-centered but thought it might be more appropriate here seeing I am not Catholic. Yes and I am aware of Catholic theology but I don’t think that’s the issue as you will probably see.
My mom raised us Lutheran, and my dad doesn’t attend church but his was raised Catholic…I do not know the entire story but I know he believes in Christ and knows the Scriptures better than most people I know. The pastor we had growing up thought my dad was horrible for not going to church, even though my dad’s not Lutheran, and basically told my sister and I when we were 13/14 that our parents’ marriage was a mistake (they were married in the Lutheran church my mom attended as a child). Right or wrong in the eyes of the RCC, I don’t think it’s ever appropriate to put that onto the consciences of the children.
Anyways, the next pastor and our newest pastor have been very kind to my dad and don’t make any of us feel guilty about my dad’s choices.
But after 25 years of my parents being married my aunt (my mom’s sister) very recently insinuated my dad will be damned because he doesn’t attend church and take the Sacrament of Holy Communion in the Lutheran Church.
I’m really hurt by this, even though I know only God truly sees what my dad believes. I think it got brought up because my cousin is keeping her son’s father from knowing he exists because he does not attend church, among other reasons (I know, sounds like the lovely situation it is), and my aunt related that to my dad’s choices.
I guess I am just looking for some support or just a chance to get this off of my shoulders.