My heart is a little heavy.
While we are blessed to have many babies in church, they fuss, as babies normally do. We have a cry room for them to go to when they get too fussy. I understand the occasional outburst. I’m think you’d have to be pretty hard core to get upset over a little one fussing a little.
This was the problem last Sunday.
A young couple who has a 2yr old and a less than a year old. Baby boy and baby girl. The little ones were fussing quite a bit during mass. During the homily, I don’t know what happened, but all of the sudden, it did get pretty loud. I’m not sure if people whispering overtop of the baby crying or what, but it reached a point where Father stopped his homily and said, Please, we have a cry room, Please take your baby to the cry room. ((crickets, nothing- still fussing)) Again- he asks ((Me ? You can’t mean me?)) The third time he says For God’s sake, take your child to the cry room. So they do.
Now, most of the women of the church act like they have to crucify Father for commanding respect during mass. I’m on the fence. I can tolerate some crying, it happens. If I were holding my baby during mass and she was crying or just fussy- I’m out the door. I really don’t feel comfortable about drawing attention to myself and I don’t want to be disruptive.
Tonight, the Parish and Finance councils are having a joint meeting and they plan to discuss the matter. During a facebook chat, the leader asks for everyones opinion. After reading msg after msg about how they feel Father was very much in the wrong about calling out this mother and father- I felt I needed to step in and say hey, Men are very different from women about the tolerance level of a baby crying. He’s from India, maybe things are different there ? Others say, we are a small church and we dont’ mind a baby crying. well, yea, sort of, but if you can’t hear the homily, why bother coming ? but who can say that to a bunch of church women ? Father’s argument is that the Mass isn’t just for a few, but for everyone and I agree.
What do I do ? I don’t want to seem to harsh ? Love always, right ? I like these women, they are good people, but our Father is new and I know he feels bad about what he said. My mind though, is blown at the quickness to raise a pitchfork at him.