I have been lurking, but this is the one that made me sign up and respond.
One of my sisters was told 14 and 13 years ago that her last two pregnancies would be stillbirths, when all this diagnostic stuff started hitting every baby in earnest. While we all prayed, HARD, we also wanted to keep a positive attitude. So YES, give gifts!!! Baby rosaries, baby medals with pins, blankets, small stuffed animals…and maybe gift certificates that can be used later on. And there’s nothing wrong with giving her little gifts, as well.
My sister felt that the only gift she would be able to give them was to be sure they received the Sacrament of Baptism. So, for each birth, she made each baby a beautiful baptismal gown. She figured if the children lived, they would have a memento of her love, to pass down to her grandchildren; and if not, then the baby could be buried in the gown, still receiving one last gift of love. She made sure somebody was on call to baptize each child the minute it was born, breathing or not. She brought the gowns with her in her luggage, not ever expecting to use them in time, but for burial, because she didn’t trust anybody else to ensure the funeral home got them.
BTW- One boy is in high school, and one in middle school. Neither boy fit in his lovely handmade gown. Each was way too big to begin to fit into either one.