Back and fourth


#1

Yes, I’d like to get married. Someday- don’t know when. I’d like a good husband and to stay home with the children. But in the mean-time I have no post HS degree and that’s been seriously bothering me. I had a lot of trouble deciding what I want to do and my options are still pretty limited. Nothing medical, please, that narrows down a lot. Most people feel that one should have a degree under one’s belt, just in case (heaven forbid!) your husband wont be able to support by some unfortunate means. I think this is wise, or I may waste a lot of time and money getting a degree I wont use.


#2

Getting an education is always a good idea, even if you’re never employed in your field of study. It will set a good example for your children and help you educate them as they grow. Plus, you will have the peace of mind for the just in case senario.

As for vocations. You have to figure that out yourself. There are websites that give you a small test to see what you might be inclined to be good at. I don’t know what they are, try a search. Try the phrase “job search.” or something similar. Good luck. In the end it comes down to figuring it out yourself. Don’t worry, many people change their minds several times before settling down to a career or field of study.


#3

Oh yeah, since you seem to be interested, why not Theology? Don’t know if demand for that degree is high, but at least you’ll get started studying in a field you are interested in.


#4

mothers spend the most time with their children and with fathers direct their education, some even homeschool, in any case someone raising children can only be helped by aquiring a liberal education. What are your interests and proclivities? Follow the major most close to your interests, you will never regret it.


#5

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What about teaching? Such a background would certainly be of use when you are at home with the kids. Then when they’re all in school (unless you homeschool, in which case your education would be even more useful) you could work if you wanted and still be at home with them in the afternoons, holiday breaks, and all summer long.


#6

My education degree was useless to me in homeschooling. Really. most of teaching classes I took were geared to classroom management.

Keep reading to develop your mind and take classes if they interest you. But unless you want to get into a career and stay in it, you aren’t going to get a big pay off from a degree. My friend made more as a waitress than a starting teaching salary. Unless you jump into something high earning like pharmacy, it takes time to work yourself into a higher salary.

I wish I had some training in a job I could do out of the house on the side–like hair dressing. That would be a very useful vocational type training.

St. Therese’s mother Zelie prayed to know what she could do to help support her family and pay her sister’s dowry into the convent. She was inspired to learn lace making. She continued to work and was very successful as she had children. She didn’t want to work, but she was grateful for the means to provide for her children. In fact, her husband retired from his trade to help her expand.

So, pray. I believe God will set before you the job that will both provide for you and bring you closer to him. And, don’t be afraid to just step out and try something. You can always quit. Alot of people start out in one thing and find another in the course of their studies. I planned to be a PhD anthropologist, but when I got to my senior seminar, I realized I wasn’t cut out for the tedious and nitpicky research/publish, or die route. Luckily, at the same time I realized that I had a love for teaching and turned my attention to my other major–Biology education. However, I only taught one year before I quit to be a SAHM.

There is a lot of pressure to go to College. I’m not sure that it is worth it esp. if you are ambivalent. How about taking a few classes just to get your feet wet?


#7

All great advise! Also, do be prepared for the fact that not everybody who wants to get married and be a SAHM actually gets to do that.

I have 4 friends who I’ve known for 18 years or more, so since I was in highschool…they all wanted to get married and have children. One is 35 and still living at home, she is a very serious type and although she has had one long-term relationship, it kind of fizzled out. Another is 39 and has been looking after her infirm, elderly father for the past 10 years and between that and her job as a teaching assistant she has no ‘time’ to find a spouse. The third is a very friendly, successful, outgoing 40 year old who meets plenty of men but that ‘spark’ is just never there and finally, I know a wonderful woman who is 47 and although she has been friendly with plenty of suitable men, things just never progress…Three out of those 4 are also church-going Catholics. All of them would have wanted nothing more than to be married and have children…but sometimes life just doesn’t go that way. My godmother (she died 5 years ago aged 94) was witty, brilliant, and great with children…again, as she put it ‘I met enough men, but somehow it wasn’t what God had in mind for me’…

I’m not saying it’ll happen to you, but don’t take it for granted that because you want it to happen, it will…so, whatever way you look upon it having a proper job under your belt is ALWAYS a good idea!

Anna x


#8

Thank you all for your advice, I will surely think it over. The past couple of years have been for me what I call WASTED- no school, no work. This year my resolution is that I will either be employed or in school before not too long. I don’t think it is ever a person’s calling to have hours of nothing to do.

As for taking courses to get my feet wet, I’ve thought of it and others have suggested it. The problem with me is I need to have a motivational goal insight- will a course or two do me any good with getting a job? That’s my thinking right now, over just personal enrichment.


#9

One more thing…pick up the book…I kissed dating goodbye by Joshua Harris. It is on sale everywhere including the internet. Even check out the list of books/videos/tapes on this website regarding dating and finding a spouse. It is under the chastity/love listing of books. Pray and pray some more. I did a novena and my prayers were answered when I found my spouse. God hears!


#10

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