[quote="augustinefellow, post:1, topic:312581"]
I posted this in a different category earlier, but am hoping to get more of a response.
I've been really bothered since I went to Confession this morning. Here's what happened:
I'm a guy who struggles with SSA. I went to confession and confessed lust among other things, and was stumbling through my list of sins, and as the priest was briefly offering me encouragement, I realized that I hadn't been specific in the fact that my lust involved SSA, which is something I normally mention in the confessional. But I didn't say anything when I realized I hadn't. I made my act of contrition and then received absolution, and then said my penance. But I felt guilty still.
I was told by a priest when I first became Catholic, that lusting after the same-sex added another dimension to the sin and was basically a different sin than lust since it is part of a separate disorder of the soul, and needed to be confessed as such.
So during the entire Mass I felt like I had withheld a major mortal sin in confession and just could not experience God's mercy and peace. I did end up going up for Communion and now I wonder if I made a bad confession and desecrated the Eucharist. Am I just being scrupulous?
This may be helpful, from the Baltimore Catechism No. 3 and the latest Catechism. Your description seems to fit the ninth commandment the best as "carnal concupiscence" regardless of the
Q. 1284. What is forbidden by the sixth Commandment?
A. The sixth Commandment forbids all unchaste freedom with another's wife or husband; also all immodesty with ourselves or others in looks, dress, words, and actions.
Q. 1317. What is forbidden by the ninth Commandment?
A. The ninth Commandment forbids unchaste thoughts, desires of another's wife or husband, and all other unlawful impure thoughts and desires.
Q. 1324. In what does the sixth commandment differ from the ninth, and the seventh differ from the tenth?
A. The sixth commandment differs from the ninth in this, that the sixth refers chiefly to external acts of impurity, while the ninth refers more to sins of thought against purity. The seventh commandment refers chiefly to external acts of dishonesty, while the tenth refers more to thoughts against honesty.
From the Catechism of the Catholic Church, on the ninth Commandment:
2514 St. John distinguishes three kinds of covetousness or concupiscence: lust of the flesh, lust of the eyes, and pride of life.301 In the Catholic catechetical tradition, the ninth commandment forbids carnal concupiscence; the tenth forbids coveting another's goods.
2515 Etymologically, "concupiscence" can refer to any intense form of human desire. Christian theology has given it a particular meaning: the movement of the sensitive appetite contrary to the operation of the human reason. The apostle St. Paul identifies it with the rebellion of the "flesh" against the "spirit."302 Concupiscence stems from the disobedience of the first sin. It unsettles man's moral faculties and, without being in itself an offense, inclines man to commit sins.303