Backstory: My husband and I have been struggling with infertility and loss since our wedding in July 2007, and have finally been blessed with a beautiful new life, due in June.
Because we take our child’s faith formation seriously, we’re starting to look at our options for Godparents, and are somewhat dismayed at our prospects.
My brother is a confirmed Catholic, but he doesn’t really attend Mass much. I believe he would take the responsibility seriously, and it might deepen his faith life, but I’d really prefer to choose a couple, and he and his girlfriend are not yet married.
My husband’s oldest sister is confirmed, but doesn’t practice at all, and frankly doesn’t believe in infant baptism, personally. This hasn’t stopped her from taking on the role for my nephew, but I believe it should have, given that she’s sort of a Catholic/Lutheran/Buddhist these days. Her husband is agnostic.
His youngest brother and wife are out, as they’re fundamentalists.
His other brother and wife are practicing, baptised all three of their sons, and chose us as Godparents for the youngest. They also chose us to act as guardians to all three should something happen to them, because they believe our faith and our strength as a couple would be good for their boys.
Here’s the rub, though. My BIL wasn’t confirmed. There was a problem when he was in the 8th grade, and they insisted he be confirmed with a group of 3rd graders (changed the age at which confirmation was administered), and he was so upset that he refused to be confirmed. And SIL was baptised and received Holy Communion, but was not confirmed.
Personally, I want to ask my BIL if he will be confirmed so he can be our child’s Godfather, but I’m not sure how that will go over, or if it’s even appropriate.
We do have friends who I’m sure would be only too willing to step in, and are completely qualified, but we likely won’t be living in this state for more than a few more years, so I’d really prefer to go with someone who we’re sure will stay in contact no matter where we go.
So there it is. I apologize for the length of my novel. I hope you can help! Thanks in advance!