This is my first time writing on Catholic Answers and I would love to know if anyone out there has had a similar experience.
I’m happily married to a man who once married to a Jewish woman for six years and they have an 8-year-old son. My husband and I have been married for 2 years now, he is a naturalized US citizen (originally from Germany), and we currently live in Colorado while is ex wife and son live in New York City. At the time of his divorce, his lawyer was very passive and did not act in his best interest, as such, he has to have supervised visitation with his son (due to prior alcohol abuse) and his ex wife is financially draining him in a deliberate effort to make him unable to travel to visit his son. We have been going through some financial difficulties lately: my husband lost his job at the end of March but managed to get a new job about two months after. He’s been very responsible in paying as much as he could and exhausted all savings in trying to help us survive, yet his ex-wife who comes from a rich family, has no debt, pays no rent, makes six-figures, and keeps asking for more and more money.
I hired a lawyer for my husband who is finally doing more to help than anything that has been done for years, yet I still have horrible anxiety about all of this. I’m constantly worried sick about what could happen to us financially and what could happen to my husband if she keeps prodding him for more money. Most of all I think about how horrible my stepson much feel about all of this and no one is properly hearing his thoughts in all this.
I’m struggling to forgive and not be angry at my husband’s ex in all of this; everyday I feel anger and fear and I know this is wrong.
Is there anyone out there in a similar situation or knows someone struggling dealing with mixed family dynamics? This is never something I thought I’d have to deal with, but I can’t help loving my husband. I want us to be able to afford a home someday and have children of our own.
I would really appreciate your prayers and any advice for how I should address my prayers (i.e. any saints that could help). I don’t want to keep fearing a woman across the country and what she may or may not do to my husband or my stepson.
Thank you so much and God bless you all!