Without getting into the reasons why my husband DOES NOT like my parents. That is putting it midly. I won’t get into the reasons except too say he has very good reasons for feeling the way he does. They have not treated him or us as a couple well.
Here’s the problem, as angry as I am at them, they are still my parents and I do love them very much. My husband has made it clear that although he does not want to see them, it’s fine with him and he even encourages me to visit them whenever I want.
However, I hate going to family events without him. I hate making excuses for why he’s not there. I have tried this before and I have had no success. I’m left feeling like I’m married in my private life and single in public. However I know asking him to go will spell the end of our marriage.
So my alternative is too boycott all family events altogether. I have already missed my favorite cousin’s wedding and my mother’s birthday and I felt guilt over each. I also feel that if I go to family events I’m telling my parent’s that their actions are ok. The greatest amount of guilt comes from feeling that totally ignoring my parents is disrespectful and goes against the honour I am required to give them according to the commandent. How do I give them this respect while staying true to my husband and my marriage.