I was wondering if anyone could advise. I’m catholic but of the lapsed variety. Which is not to say I don’t believe in God but does mean that I limit my visits to Church to Easter and Christmas and I guess my normal state is somehwere between belief and scepticism.
in order to request baptism for your child you do not need to be married in the Catholic Church (or indeed married at all) but you must give evidence that you plan to raise the child as a Catholic. Obviously if the parents are not married, or not married in the Church, and if the Catholic partner does not believe in the central tenets of his religion, and does not practice his faith, the priest will be justified in asking how you plan to raise a Catholic child.
If you think about your own childhood, you will easily see that it is very hard to send your child to Catholic school or CCD class where he is taught one thing, and then to raise him in a home where he is taught something else. It puts the parents in a bad position if school or CCD is going to contradict the parents’ views, and puts the child in a bad position if he hears and sees things at home that go against his teaching at school.
You need a frank discussion with your wife on the whole topic of children in general, how you plan to raise them, the relative importance of religious doctrine and practice in your family life etc. I think the movement you feel in your heart back toward you faith is genuine and you must give it more thought and prayer. This can be the opportunity for amazing graces for your family as you baptize your child, learn more about your faith in the process, have your marriage blessed–another source of immense sacramental grace and strength–and return to the sacraments of penance and Eucharist.