[quote="DrumMonkey316, post:7, topic:236873"]
N I figure just because we are still waiting, doesn't mean I shouldn't teach them and continue to help them grow in Faith. :shrug:
absolutely right, this is what I love to hear from parents.
now is a good time to call the parish again. In our parish your children would begin their formal RE/PSR/CCD/RCIA next month, some parishes may tell you it will begin in September, but it is pure gold when the parents have done their job as beautifully as you have in building the basic foundations at home in the family.
The cut off age seems to be about 7, "the age of reason" and before that the child is considered an infant and baptized now (here it would be in May, after 3 parent-godparent preparation meetings), begin RE/CCD/PSR with the next class to prepare for first communion, and continue RE throughout the school years, and prepare for confirmation at the normal age for your diocese (here it is 16).
The 8 year old would also begin RE but in RCIA, Rites of Christian Initiation for Adults as Adapted for Children (say that 3 times fast). She is considered an adult for the purposes of the initiation sacraments, and will prepare with other school age children for baptism, confirmation and first communion, which will be celebrated at the same time, at Easter probably 2013 if she starts now.
I am sorry your parish dropped the ball, but it is a great time to make another appointment with the pastor, or the person(s) he delegates to take care of this. You should speak to him personally though because you also want to give thought to bringing your marriage situation in line. If facts are as they seem from your OP, your husband is Catholic and his first marriage was invalid due to lack of form (that is, he was not married according to the laws of the Church) and that does not require a full annulment process but a simpler, shorter paperwork process to establish that fact. Then your marriage can be convalidated.
Your situation is not unusual and describes actually the majority of families who first come to me for sacraments for their children at a later age than usual. We find the adults also need help, with marriage, or completing their own initiation sacraments, and have the joy of guiding the entire family as Jesus bathes them in his Grace through one sacrament after another.
sad to say especially this time of year it may take more than one phone call or visit to the parish office to get things started, and I have no doubt there will be bumps in the road as unexpected things come up, but Jesus is working through you, their stepmother, in these children for your whole family and you must be prepared for absolute torrents of grace and gifts of the Holy Spirit he has in store for you. This is why I love my job. Very lucky children to have you for their new mother.
The time of waiting is not delaying tactics or a frustration, it is a time of grace, spiritual growth and preparation for the whole family, and as I have seen very often, also of healing. It is a gift, not a burden and I hope you will all come to see it that way. How wonderful that you and the children are also being instrumental in bringing your husband back to the faith as he carries his own heavy cross.