I was listening to a program on Catholic radio today where the host, Patrick Madrid, took a call from a listener who worried that her son's baptism thirty years ago may not have been valid. The baby boy started crying during the baptism and the priest said something along the lines of "I baptize you in the name of the Father, shhh, don't cry. And of the son. There now, it's almost over. And of the Holy Spirit."
Patrick's answer was that this baptism was of questionable validity. He advised the caller to ask her son to get conditionally baptized, and when she expressed her doubt that he would do this (because he's a lapsed Catholic), Patrick suggested that she ask her son to do it as a favor to her.
I had to turn the program off before hearing how the call ended, but I wondered about this question/response and had some follow-up questions for all you fine folks:
1) Should an adult Catholic who may/may not have been baptized licitly as an infant be encouraged to received conditional baptism as a favor to his parents who intended to baptize him as an infant if it's not clear that he will continue to practice the faith? I realize the graces received during baptism are incomparable, but I'm thinking particularly of the obligations (weekly Mass attendance, for example) that are required of baptized Catholics not binding under pain of mortal sin for non-Catholics.
2) If this person were not validly baptized, what of all the other sacraments received in good faith throughout his life? Did he receive any grace from the Eucharist or sacramental confession? Would confirmation need to be repeated (conditionally?).