I posted before regarding struggling with changing the Godmother of my now 6 month old daughter. I appreciated the help from this forum. I am now faced with two new issues and can use help again.
I am a Roman Catholic married to a Protestant. My husband has never questioned me about our differences and tells me that the baptism of our children “Is important to him because it is important to me”. But now his mother has started again with asking “why do you baptise a baby? do you think she has sinned? do you think she is not always in God’s grace? why do you Catholics believe this baptism of infants?” With my son 3 years ago, I simply told her “this is what I believe and this is what we Catholics do”. My husband said that should be enough and not to worry about explaining myself, but apparently it has started with my daughter again now, mostly when he is at work and I am alone with her. How do I politely answer her question without getting into a debate with her, she will never change me from being a Catholic and I do not worry, I just wish I could have a good way to make her stop acting so superior because she doesn’t think I can answer her to make her “understand”. I feel I shouldn’t have to make her understand…but want her off my back because she makes me feel defensive about the sacraments.
Second issue, I know very few people and have no one to ask to be my daughter’s Godparent, I have decided not to ask my siblings because my husband and I feel that they are not living good lives that we wish to project onto my daughter. How do I proceed without a Godparent? My parents would be perfect but they are 74 and 75 and think I should get someone who will be around during her important developmental years. I plan to guide her myself, how do I get her sacrament now? I just want to get my daughter baptized as soon as possible, what can i do?
I know that Canon law says I should have done this earlier but honestly I never posted why I waited before. My daughter was a medical miracle but the complex pregnancy separated my pelvis within the first few months which kept me in the hospital and bedridden the entire pregnancy. I was unable to walk until recently. I am still recovering and beginning to be able to walk with a walker and occassionally a cane. Since I am married to a Protestant and living with his parents (we live with them because we needed help with myself, the baby and our 3 year old because of my condition) , I am not exactly the majority in this house on the importance of baptism. Everyone has been assisting me in walking these past few months and now I am trying to hurry to get her sacrament. I know there should be no “excuse” for delaying but my in-laws were not about to rush her down to a Catholic church while I lay in bed to get her baptized, as you can read above, they don’t understand sacraments.
(Sorry for the long post, I appreciate your help again):o