I am confused, because I am trying to find what God wants, not what others think. Not the friend, spouse, coworker who is looking for money, sex, love, ect…
It all comes down to loving our neighbor as ourselves, by doing acts of mercy. Luke 10:29-37
I agree with this, but I find this interesting because if I love myself as I love my neighbor, that puts a twist on the dynamic that I have grown up with. I would never call a drug addict or an alcoholic hopeless loser - but I call myself that. If I feel someone is taking advantage of me - I instantly tell myself not to be so lazy and selfish. But people to take adavantage of others. So if I love myself as I love my neighbor - I would not do anything for my neighbor that I would not ask my neighbor to do for me???
If alcholics, drug addicts, prostitutes, etc., were loved, then they would have no need to escape to their evil ways. People are lonely and empty looking for happiness in all the wrong places. We can have compassion and pray for these people instead of judging and being critical of them. When we work with them we can become examples of Jesus to them by being kind and loving people with living clean and holy lives.
I agree that many people look for happiness in all the wrong places. To your point, people look for happiness in the wrong places because they have never found it for real so they don’t know where to look to find the genuine article. (myself included)
Do we only do the right thing if we are loved? No I don’t, so why does the alcoholic, drug addict or prostitute get that stipulation put in for them? Shouldn’t they just do the right thing because God says so? Could I say “God give me a good, kind, loving spouse and then I will stop sleeping around, stop drinking, go to church and get a good job to support our family”? I don’t expect that…should I?? I don’t know how many years of my life I have gone without feeling loved - and yet I’m not a prostitute, drug addict or an alcoholic. I work every day go to church and try to live right.
A drug addict (or alcoholic or prosititute) is not going to go clean just because a coworker, neighbor or family member is kind and loving to them. If I am a manager and at work and a drug addict/alcoholic gives me grief every day - by putting coworkers down (to make themselves feel better), disrupting the working environment, not doing their work and others have to cover or suffer because of this, they are always coming in late, leaving early, ect…To imitate Christ what should be done? Others doing the work for them will not make them straighten up. Firing them will just put them in a worse position. Send them to facility for rehab to dry out - but who pays for that? How many times do you send them to rehab? Are they on the payroll while they are in rehab? who pays their rent, car, ect…while they are in rehab?
I have been around many messed up people and I am trying to understand what Christ would do around messed up people. If he were boss would he fire the drunk? Would he send the drunk to rehab? How many times would he send the drunk to rehab?