[quote="gardenswithkids, post:12, topic:316887"]
Thanks. I tried to sum it up in my previous post, but I'll elaborate a litte more.
Some of this is covered simply by rules of good manners: "It's impolite to stare at people."
Debora wrote about finding her husband attractive, but that's different because he is her husband, so she has some right to look at him for however long it pleases her. Gazing at one's spouse is different from staring at total strangers or casual aquaintances who have not given you permission to look at them for long periods of time.
If you were to attend a play or ballet, the performers have allowed you permission to look at them for longer periods of time. Go ahead and appreciate them and their artistry! Look as long as the show is on. If you want to attend my daughter's dance performance and you enjoy her beauty as well as her dance, then no one will find it creeepy. However, if my daughter or some other young lady happens to catch your eye while walking down the street, then anything beyond a few seconds starts to cross an undefined line. A person who is going about her own business did not invite you to stare at her, so don't do it. It's kind of creepy.
Not to brag or anything, but I think my children are beautiful. :curtsey::pshaw: And yes, even with my babies, there is undefined line that some people cross sometimes.
Looking is okay. Smiling and interacting is okay. Staring is not okay. If you smile and attempt to interact with eye contact, from there you should pick up on social clues--and socializing reminds you that you are dealing with a human person, (not an inanimate object). The person's response will usually let you know if your further attention is welcome or not. If you are interacting with the other person, you are not staring.
I assume the op is a single man available for dating.
*If *you are a married man or otherwise committed, I advise you when you see a beautiful woman, to think of your wife, your daughter, your mother or the Blessed Mother. Then after a short glance, get back to minding your own business and perhaps turn you eyes to gaze at the moon and leave the poor girl alone!
Well then this is completely different.
You're saying that the "staring" part is not necessarily a good thing because it's impolite and rude to stare if they are strangers. I'll completely agree with that. But as far as simply finding someone very beautiful, and taking enjoyment out of looking at them because of their beauty? No, I don't think there's anything wrong or objectifying with that, as long as you're not being rude or creepy by staring when it's inappropriate to do so.