Being gay, lesbian, transgender


#287

Because the devils tell one another. They are deceitful. They were already fallen angels before creation began.
When we disobey the Lord by going to psychics we are opening the door to the devil’s lying tricks.


#288

Then most people are wrong. The definition of a pedophile is a person with a sexual attraction to children. That doesn’t mean that they are a child molester.
Not all pedophiles are child molesters.
Not all child molesters are pedophiles.
This is important because those working the field of child safety think it’s important that pedophiles are able to acknowledge their attraction to children and get help, and that means not hiding, which is more likely to happen if we continue to suggest that pedophile means someone who has sexually abused a child.


#289

I mean, good for you, but that’s certainly not the case for most people, including heterosexuals.


#290

I agree with you completely…this is why I prefer anecdotal evidence to surveys…
We still have a land line, and get political surveys frequently…I fib two or three times during each survey just to mess with them.


#291

I can not account for the inconsistencies of others. And yet…

Those at the border are just as bound to respecting the laws of America as Americans are bound to welcome them into our country.

I would suggest that “child of God” is the description of my inner most self. The highest description of who I am. While other descriptions may be applicable they are subject to bend to the orientation of my inner most self.

The other descriptions become less important as we reach the zenith of who we really are.

Picture a rose growing…
What does the rose think of itself when it is a seed, or when it is a stem, or just as it begins to bloom. Yet the gardener always recognizes its highest self (a rose) regardless of what that rose thinks of itself…


#292

Desires and thoughts can be sinful if they are voluntary used.


#293

Good analogy.


#294

I don’t think anyone’s saying that sexual orientation is the most important facet of one’s being. Just that saying “I’m gay” is a valid, non-dehumanizing description of homosexual attraction.


#295

I suppose. But I think a lot of the listeners to this might think its “too much information” and something which should be shared on a need-to-know basis.

If you tell me that, and I’m not a counselor in any sense of the word, and I’m certainly not a homosexual, there is no response.

I’m probably just inclined to keep quiet about it. But my feeling is that such a declaration is an invasion of my own space.


#296

Do you never give off any indications that you’re straight?


#297

It really depends on what kind of a relationship you want. If you want to be good friends, it is important to know because it is an integral part of who the person is and what their life is about. If you want to keep people at arm’s length and not get to know them well, then your approach is OK. Sort of no different than any other personal information that helps you learn about other people.


#298

Right.

The old argument from the 1970s: “I don’t hate gays as long as they don’t ‘flaunt it.’”

But the rest of us “flaunt” their sexuality all the time in a way.; for example, if a man has a picture at work with his wife and kids, or if he mentions in the break room he’s going somewhere after work with “Linda.”


#299

It’s like you’re demonizing the normal way of things. What is wrong with a man talking about his wife or vice versa?


#300

I wasn’t “demonizing” it. I was just saying people do it.

I was saying it was hypocritical in the 1970s to use that argument.


#301

“Otherwise Jesus could not say, “to look at a woman and lust is to commit adultery in your heart”. The lusting is an object of desire. So wrong desires are sinful.”

The Church has already established that as catholicray said.

See a cute guy or girl, WOW how cute, turn away and move on-----NO SIN!

See a cute guy or girl, WOW how cute, oh what I could do with them, continue to look, imagine, objectify that person &what you could do-----SIN!

After continuing to look & imagine make an effort to actually go after cute guy or girl in the hopes that you could get physically involved ONLY --------SIN!

Doing what you imagined with cute guy or girl outside of marriage (one man one woman)------SIN!


#302

My issue would be with PDA’s but on saying that I don’t like opposite sex PDAs either.


#303

I’m not a fan of that either.


#304

Just like most straight men don’t go around telling strangers, “I’m straight,” I don’t know hardly any gay men who go around telling strangers, “I’m gay!” in everyday interractions. I certainly don’t do that. Probably the only time I’ve said that is when I was coming out to a close friend or family member when I was more closeted.

Nowadays, I don’t make any announcements, but I also don’t make any efforts to conceal my sexual orientation unless I think that letting it be known might be unsafe. So, when my partner and I go someplace together, I might introduce him to other people by saying, “This is my partner, John” (not his real name). Or when my partner brought me to the office Christmas party where he worked, he just said matter of factly, “Can I introduce you to my partner Mark?” (not my real name). Or, in the course of conversation, I might tell someone that my partner John and I are going to be going to such and such a place this weekend. I never even have to say the word “gay” and leave it to people to draw their own conclusions which isn’t difficult for them to do since my partner has a male name like John and not a female one like Linda.


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