Not sure if this is the appropriate forum to post this. I have a dilemma. My best friend of over 10 years has recently told me that she plans on dating. I have always known she was gay, however, over the years I had thought she would never get involved with anyone even though she has had a relationship in the past, only telling me when it was over. I guess it was a great deal of naivety on my part that led me to think she would be single forever.
She and I and our other mutual friends have talked about how I feel ad nauseum about my position is regarding this, so when she told me and I reacted the way I did, she was shocked and upset thinking that over the years perhaps I had changed my position. I told her I hadn't and never will.
She has been talking to this girl for quite a while now. They have never met in person but Skype a lot. She will be visiting from overseas in a couple of weeks and staying with my friend. I told my friend I did not want to meet her until I absolutely had to (a long time from now) and didn't know how I could hang around them when I knew that what they were doing was wrong. The problem is our friends when they find out are going to take her side and come down hard on me with their anger and condescension. My friend wants to know why I feel this way towards her relationship when I know that my other friends do things like cohabitation and fornicating and I haven't said anything to them. She had a point so I told her the only reason I said something to her was because she was the closest to me and I felt comfortable telling her things I would only tell my sister. I also tried to explain that homosexual dating was a state of perpetual sin until the relationship came to an end.
I think I have overreacted and lectured her like a child, or like I would do my family members. She messaged me today saying she feels like **** and needs to talk to someone as I had told her not to tell anyone about our conversation as I'm not ready to deal with our other friends. I messaged her back telling her I overreacted. I dont know what to do from here. I dont want to appear to be supporting of her relationship but I also dont want to lose all my friends. I only have a handful of friends and like I said they are all going to side against my position. Please tell me what to do?