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I just have a general question for those of you more experienced at this than myself. I was raised with agnostic, moral relativist ideas, and became a Catholic three years ago. When I hear people (Catholic or not) repeating those same old liberal catch phrases, I tend to respond harshly. I realise this doesn’t do anything to help get my point across & actually makes the Church look bad, but I’m not sure what a good response would be. What have you found is a good approach when dealing with people who might be mistaken about what the church teaches, or whose moral reasoning is illogical?


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I Peter 3
15But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, 16keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander

James 3
1Not many of you should presume to be teachers, my brothers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly. 2We all stumble in many ways. If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to keep his whole body in check.
3When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. 4Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. 5Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. 6The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.

7All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and creatures of the sea are being tamed and have been tamed by man, 8but no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.

9With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness. 10Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be. 11Can both fresh water and salt[a] water flow from the same spring? 12My brothers, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.

Two Kinds of Wisdom

13Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. 14But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. 15Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil. 16For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.
17But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. 18Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness.


#3

I think there is a good book from the Catholic answers shop called “How not to share your faith”. Maybe this would be useful in your approach?

Pat Madrids “Where is that in the Bible” book is very handy.


#4

[quote=Superstar905]I think there is a good book from the Catholic answers shop called “How not to share your faith”. Maybe this would be useful in your approach?
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I second this, along with Patrick Madrid’s “Search and Rescue.”

I’ve found if you take a second to compose yourself, and present your comments with a friendly enthusiasm, people are more receptive. Something like: “You know, it’s interesting that you would say that. Actually, did you know that …”


#5

Humility is the key. if you figure out how to develop it quickly, please let me know.


#6

[quote=BlindSheep]I just have a general question for those of you more experienced at this than myself. I was raised with agnostic, moral relativist ideas, and became a Catholic three years ago. When I hear people (Catholic or not) repeating those same old liberal catch phrases, I tend to respond harshly. I realise this doesn’t do anything to help get my point across & actually makes the Church look bad, but I’m not sure what a good response would be. What have you found is a good approach when dealing with people who might be mistaken about what the church teaches, or whose moral reasoning is illogical?
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You are right that you will catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.

Since you were raised with agnostic, moral relativist ideas, you yourself understand what it is like to think that way. I would smile and say, "You know, I used to think that myself, but then I discovered . . . " and go on from there. That way you are talking about yourself, not attacking them. You could wind up with something about how glad you are that you’ve had these realizations, how much more fulfilling your life is now.

You just might get somebody thinking.


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