Men are silly.
The huz (who has no problem with applause in his professional setting and, in fact, pouts when he receives what he feels to be an insufficient amount) is just now learning to take a compliment or a gift in real life.
The old way:
Penny: Huz, here is a gift that I picked out for you after stewing about the issue for weeks and trying to find you the perfect thing.
Huz: Gee. Thanks. You shouldn’t go to all that trouble for me.
The new way:
Penny: Huz (etc.)
Huz: Thanks, love. Did you keep the receipt?
Some people just don’t know how to take a compliment or receive a gift. I always liked the story about Jesus and the perfume, and I think it teaches us how to respond to things like this. He didn’t say, “Don’t waste your money on me.” He didn’t say, “Woman, I am busy. Knock it off.” He said, “Thanks.”
I try to resist the urge to give advice about relationships on this board because I’ve never met any of the people involved. This one bothers me, though, and the thing that jumps out at me is the statement that he never opened any of your presents.
Who doesn’t open presents? That seems to me (note: NOT a certified counselor or in any way professionally qualified to offer an opinion, so this advice is worth exactly the amount you paid for it) to say that he doesn’t want them. The fact that he doesn’t get you any presents or, really, do anything you need in the relationship, says one of two things: Either (1) he doesn’t understand the give-and-take in a relationship because he can’t or (2) he understands but doesn’t want to engage in them.
(2) is a big hint that maybe this isn’t going to work out well.
(1) … Not sure what to do about (1). If nothing else, it’s a sign that you’ve God’s plenty of work to do to get this guy up to the point where he can give you what you need in a relationship. It is, after all, a two-way street.
Two questions, then. First: Is it even possible? If not, walk away. Second, if it is possible, is he worth the effort? Nobody’s perfect, but it sounds like his imperfections run up against your needs in a really unfortunate way.
And I don’t mean to imply that there’s one single thing wrong with you, Andrea. People need to be loved, and they need that love to be shown. We all need it shown in different ways. (Note to Huz: Rubies. BIG ONES.) If he can’t show you the love you need and are entitled to, maybe you need to let go and find somebody who can.
Or maybe you need to just hang on and hope a better person emerges once he gets through all the things that are bothering him right now. But it seems to me that, if he felt the way you feel about him, you’d be a blessing and not another problem.
But what do I know?