I have had a very long and frustrating journey through Christianity that started with me being an atheist years ago, but I came to find faith through hardship - that hardship of mine just so happened to be divorce. Since then I have explored a great many churches and denominations, and while I am a believer, I always found them to be lacking in one way or another, but that is another topic.
I know that it is often possible to be granted an anullment by the church, but what if I have no idea how to contact the other party to assist the church in the investigation of the marriage?
A few details: She was raised Catholic up until the age of 7 or 8 and had not attended since. We both considered ourselves atheists and made it a point to have a secular wedding and neither of us wanted children. All of this went about as well as you would expect and it ended with her having an affair and leaving to go live on the opposite coast of the United States with the man that she was having an affair with. I have had no contact with her since the divorce (6 years) and would not even know how to begin to contact her if the church wanted to speak to both parties for the anullment process.
I have been drawn to and studied about the Catholic Church for a year now because of the void that I saw in non-denominational churches, and most recently the episcopal church. Would there be any conceivable way to have an anullment granted if I do not know how to contact old friends or her side of the family from that time in my life?