I am brand new here and looking for some guidance. I was baptized and confirmed Catholic, but I do not believe I was properly catechized. At any rate, due to many factors, I have drifted away from the Church over the last 10 years or so. Recently, I have finally come to understand a lot of the Church’s teachings in a way I never have before. My faith before was muddled and confused, and I was always trying to work out for myself what I believed and why. It’s been a relief to find that I don’t have to reinvent the wheel, so to speak, by becoming a participating member of the Church.
Anyway, my husband (we were married in the Church a year and a half ago) is also Catholic, but he does not practice. He doesn’t know what he believes and says that at the moment, he’s not very interested in delving into it. I’ve told him about my recent realizations, and while he’s been supportive, I am dreading the inevitable monkey-wrench of birth control.
He is very, VERY in favor of birth control, and I am almost sure that he would rather abstain than engage in unprotected sex. It’s true that we are not prepared for children as we are both graduate students on a small income. I understand the Church’s position and am coming to believe that my use of birth control is wrong. I just don’t know what to do about my husband and am afraid that this issue will damage our marriage if I demand we stop using it.
Does anyone have any advice on the best way to bring this up with him? He is a very loving man and I’m sure would want to respect my wishes, but at the same time his fear of having kids now is very, very great. I feel like I will be pulling the rug out from under him when I bring this up. Help!