When there are 12-year-old girls getting raped by men with AIDS who think that sex with a virgin cures the virus, I HAVE to think that the use of a condom would be licit, but it seems that the Church does not. If it were my daughter, you BET I would want the rapist to wear a condom.
So if it were your daughter, your virgin teenage daughter, accosted in a parking lot by a mentally-ill rapist - would you or would you not prefer him to use a condom before he raped her? Let's say that he has HIV. You don't get to choose if your daughter is raped, but you do get to choose if the rapist uses a condom.
i'm entirely certain i would NOT get to choose whether my hypothetical rapist, or my daughter's hypothetical rapist would wear a condom.
but, for the benefit of this outlandish premise, i will say, "YES." i would like said rapist to wear a condom. does that make condoms ok? NO. it only means i would like to contain the devastation of the crime already being committed. i would not care ONE iota that said rapist added to his faults by condom use. he's already misusing his own sexual faculties in criminally and sinful ways. why would i care that he exacerbated his guilt?
but would he be exacerbating his guilt?
Pope Benedict XVI has stated that condom use may be a "first step in the direction of a moralisation” of profoundly disordered sexual acts. rape is a profoundly disordered sexual and violent act.
so, to put condom use back into the realm of ordered sexuality, manualman's treatment of the thing is good enough to repeat with this encouragement: read carefully:
The question here seems to imply that the asker believes that the moral teaching against contraception is arbitrary in nature, akin to not being allowed to eat meat on Friday. But it isn't. Inherently sinful things are things that are inherently harmful to the human soul and its ability to give an receive love. War and hard circumstances don't change those things. The extremely poor and war torn don't benefit by having their sexual intimacy damaged by ABC. They most likely, however, DO have reason to use periodic abstinance (i.e. NFP) to prevent pregnancy. Unlike contraception, NFP doesn't inherently change the meaning and message of sexual intimacy.