Tomorrow night after school and teaching I’m going to visit my boyfriend’s grandmother (skipping out on Student Government, but she’s much more important than a school activity). She’s in the hospital, and has been diagnosed with two kinds of cancers (separate, not metasized, than goodness) and from what my bf tells me she’s not doing very well She’s only been diagnosed with one cancer since last Tuesday, and the second one since Monday).
But I’m still in college, and don’t have much experience visiting people in hospitals. It’s always been for a birth of a sibling. My grandpa died before I could visit him, though, and I will not make the same mistake with his grandmother. I do hope she beats it, that she’s one of the exceptions to the rule for the cancers she has.
Now, my questions:
What to do? I come in, give her the flowers in a vase…and then sit and talk with her awhile? About what? Or just trust in God and wing it? How long should I stay? I know he and his family have been visiting daily and staying for little over an hour each visit, but I’m not family (yet, anyway ) I really don’t know hospital etiquettes too well, beyond common sense of not overstaying a welcome.
I want to draw a little picture if I have time, as I enjoy art (a note if I don’t have time). In the picture, or in the note, I would like to insert a Bible verse as an encouragement and faith and hope type of thing. The family’s Presbyterian, so nothing from the, I guess you could call it the Apocrypha, please…I’m sure there’s plenty of verses, and I’m sure I can find the ones I remember reading, but I’m rather short on time with finals coming up too soon, so help in this area would be appreciated…
Likewise, I’d like to put a Bible verse or two or three in a note I’m going to write to my bf, when I give him some cookies. He’s feeling rather depressed right now, and I’m trying my best to be his inspiration while not disregarding his feelings. So, likewise, Bible verses of encouragement and hope would be wonderful, and likewise, he is Presbyterian.
Thank you ever so much! (Some of you may remember this from the prayers forum–still seeking prayers that you can spare…)