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I feel I know the answer to this, but I just want confirmation I guess. Why does it seem that some people are so richly blessed and others, for lack of a better word, cursed. If you are one of the ones whose life his always hard, the kind of life about which people sometimes say, "Boy, she's really got it rough", how can it be other than God having favorites and you're not it? I know, God doesn't choose favorites. But how can the "cursed" person really trust that all the time?
I hope that makes sense to someone with an answer for me. Thank you.
St Pio made a response to that question in one of his letters:
“What does it matter whether Jesus wishes to guide you to heaven by the way of the desert or by the fields, so long as you get there by one way or the other? Put away excessive worrying which results from trials by which the good Lord has desired to test you; and if this is not possible resign yourself to the divine will.”
He also wrote: “Each soul…is a stone destined to build up the eternal edifice…it has to be polished with the blows of hammer and chisel…these hits of the chisel are the shadows, the fears, the temptations, the afflictions of the spirit, the spiritual tremors with some aroma of desolation, and also physical illness.”
He did also say: “Be certain that the more a soul loves God, the less he feels it…God is incomprehensible…so that the more a soul enters into the love of this Supreme Good…this sentiment of love towards Him seems to diminish, to the point of seeming to love Him not at all…Say rather that you love, and that you wish to love with a perfect and consummate love. This good cannot be obtained in its completion except in the next life!”
However St Pio wasn't harsh about this, as he wrote, “If I know that a person is afflicted in mind and body, what would I not do to see him freed from his ills, I would willingly take on all his afflictions in order to see him freed, giving up in his favor… the fruits of such suffering if the Lord would permit me.” [Letters 1, no. 184]
And the bible:
“I think that what we suffer in this life can never be compared to the glory, as yet unrevealed, which is waiting for us.” [Romans 8:18] “Happy the person who stands firm when trials come. He has proved himself, and will win the prize of life, the crown that the Lord has promised to those who love Him.” [James 1:12] “Through your faith, God’s power will guard you until the salvation which has been prepared is revealed…to bear being plagued by all sorts of trials; so that, when Jesus Christ is revealed, your faith will have been tested and proved like gold.” [1Peter 1:5-7]
“Console yourself with the Lord’s promise to repay ‘twice over with blessing’ for all we have suffered.” [Zechariah 9:12] “Yes, the troubles which are soon over...train us for a weight of eternal glory which is out of all proportion to them.” [1Corinthians 4:17] Therefore, “be patient...until the Lord’s coming. Think of a farmer, how patiently he waits for the precious fruit of the ground until it has the autumn rains and the spring rains. [James 5:7] For a thousand years in your sight are like a day that has just gone by, or like a watch in the night. Psalm 90:4
It doesn't feel like much consolation when one is suffering deeply and endlessly, but sometimes these promises of God help us to survive.