The question “Should parents send their children to a party in a gay household” was recently asked in the AAA forum. The answer given by Fr. Serpa is given completely here
and the meat of it is here:
But as for sending your children into their household for a birthday party or some such event, one has to think of one’s own children first. Also, this isn’t just a gay thing. Would you want to send your child into the household of two heterosexual people who are shacking up? Either what Jesus teaches through His Church matters or it doesn’t. It can’t half-way matter. It can’t be half-way the truth. HE HAS TO COME FIRST !
I would suggest that you be friendly with such people, but not friends—and let your children see what charity REALLY is!
Now I certainly have great respect for Fr. Serpa and the others who answer questions in the AAA forum. But it doesn’t seem like the question was about approving or disapproving of their lifestyle, but rather of how much you should allow your children to interact with their children. (Of course I didn’t ask the question so I admit I could be mistaken about the intent.) The assumption seems to be that the two sets of children are already friends with one another.
I can understand not wanting your children to spend time in that household. But no alternatives were given. What about talking with the two men, telling them that you’d like your kids to play with their kids but that you’d feel more comfortable if the playdates were at your house?
I do not understand how it can be an act of charity to tell your kids that they shouldn’t be friends with this other set of kids because of something their parents are doing. If anything I should think we’d want to encourage that friendship so the kids have more exposure to a regular family environment.