This was my first thought as well. My nephew was 2 years younger than his older sister and as soon as she painted her nails, he wanted his nails painted too. He also dressed up in what would be considered girl dress up shoes and costumes. He did this a few times even though he had some boy stuff . My BIL had a fit and my sister said it’s just a phase.
They went out and bought him a special costume and a sword and soon the phase passed.
4-year-olds don’t have a strong sense of gender. I’m female and have never been much of a tomboy, but when I was 4 I asked my mom for a toy shaving kit I saw at the discount store so I could shave my face like I watched Daddy do in the morning. I couldn’t figure out why my parents were laughing and acting like I had made a weird request. When mom tried to explain to me that girls don’t shave, I wasn’t quite following. It just looked fun to put a lot of toy shave cream on your face and scrape it off.
As someone else said, some kids like costumes of any kind and if this boy primarily sees his sisters dressing up in bright things he may just want to be doing the same as the older kids do, not thinking of it in gender terms. He probably doesn’t understand why you’re upset.
I prescribe a dose of Batman the Animated Series. The tone is set for adults, but the content itself is kid friendly, in fact it became more popular with kids than adults, and the producers took that seriously.
Probably my favorite clip form the animated movie Mask of the Phantasm, sends more a chill down my spine than any of the live actions movies.
No doubt. But until the late 90’s and the popularity of the VCR, it was nearly impossible for children to get daily doses of Disney.
My issue is not with princesses movies, but the danger of only princesses movies for both genders.
Yes, it would be good to limit media, but as a fellow parent–I’m not going to judge media use. Sometimes Mommy needs a break, sometimes there’s 10 feet of snow and nothing else to do in the house. Sometimes you’re stuck in the car.
My point is simly give the boy some role models to look up to. Not becuase all girl stuff is bad becuase he’s a boy, but because children need to see things to emulate them.
When my oldest was 3, she insisted on being called Thomas (for Thomas the Tank Engine) and on only wearing blue clothes.
Her preschool teacher took it in stride and I happily bought her a lot of blue clothes (as she had a brother 2.5 years younger). Within 2-3 months, she moved on, and I eventually was able to use the clothes for her brother.
I would not discourage dress up in whatever he wants to dress up in. But we don’t leave the house in our dressup clothes. At four, he probably is just interested in your clothes because you are his mom and you are his source of comfort and security. He probably emulates Moana because Moana is awesome. (PS. My almost 2yo loves Moana too.) Unlike other posters, I don’t think that he needs more Disney character role models. As long as he has a real life male role model (and I’m presuming his dad is in his life as you haven’t said otherwise) he will naturally begin wanting to emulate him instead. It’s natural for a very young child to relate more with him mother than father, but I would expect that to change pretty soon. He’s getting to a more independent stage of childhood.
I wasn’t scolding him before, but then my mom kept saying,”it’s an abomination for a man to dress as a woman,” and I said, “in some cultures men wear skirts or whatever,” and she said, “not in our culture, so it’s against the Bible for him to do that”. It made me feel like I was really doing him a disservice by allowing this play. That’s why I asked here.