Boy in girl’s clothes


This was my first thought as well. My nephew was 2 years younger than his older sister and as soon as she painted her nails, he wanted his nails painted too. He also dressed up in what would be considered girl dress up shoes and costumes. He did this a few times even though he had some boy stuff . My BIL had a fit and my sister said it’s just a phase.

They went out and bought him a special costume and a sword and soon the phase passed.


Young Indiana Jones?


I think the OP is choosing her movies from only the Disney Princess Vault. Given the prolific nature of their advertising, they may be unaware that there are other safe movies for children.


You could get some kids saint books and read them to him. Maybe a book on St Francis would be good.


4-year-olds don’t have a strong sense of gender. I’m female and have never been much of a tomboy, but when I was 4 I asked my mom for a toy shaving kit I saw at the discount store so I could shave my face like I watched Daddy do in the morning. I couldn’t figure out why my parents were laughing and acting like I had made a weird request. When mom tried to explain to me that girls don’t shave, I wasn’t quite following. It just looked fun to put a lot of toy shave cream on your face and scrape it off.

As someone else said, some kids like costumes of any kind and if this boy primarily sees his sisters dressing up in bright things he may just want to be doing the same as the older kids do, not thinking of it in gender terms. He probably doesn’t understand why you’re upset.


100% on point.

I prescribe a dose of Batman the Animated Series. The tone is set for adults, but the content itself is kid friendly, in fact it became more popular with kids than adults, and the producers took that seriously.

Probably my favorite clip form the animated movie Mask of the Phantasm, sends more a chill down my spine than any of the live actions movies.



Really? For a four year old? I think it might be too mature. Four year olds should like Diego, and Sesame Street, bob the builder, bubble guppies.

I like Pippa Pig, but she’s a girl.

My son liked caillou for a while. He’s a bit whiny though , so beware.


He’s four. Let him play however he wants. I wouldn’t worry about it.


At least three Disney Princess films came out prior to the eighties, Snow White, Cinderella, and Sleeping beauty.

All three are classic films. It’s ok for both genders to see them. Father Groeschel said that he saw Snow White at the theatre when it first came out.

Media should be limited for both genders at 4.


ANYBODY but Caillou. Please. ANYONE.

That said, I know for a fact that I was about 3 or 4 watching Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and the like. We had Sesame Street but not much else as far as kid stuff.


No doubt. But until the late 90’s and the popularity of the VCR, it was nearly impossible for children to get daily doses of Disney.

My issue is not with princesses movies, but the danger of only princesses movies for both genders.

Yes, it would be good to limit media, but as a fellow parent–I’m not going to judge media use. Sometimes Mommy needs a break, sometimes there’s 10 feet of snow and nothing else to do in the house. Sometimes you’re stuck in the car.

My point is simly give the boy some role models to look up to. Not becuase all girl stuff is bad becuase he’s a boy, but because children need to see things to emulate them.


I was watching it when i was six lol. Heck at 7 I was watching Star Trek with my dad.

I turned out alright haha


what your son does, I just call a regular Tuesday afternoon for myself. An surprisingly, I don’t get teased.


Superheroes are fun for everybody. While my brothers looked up to Batman, I admired Wonder Woman (while having a secret crush on batman, of course) :slight_smile:


I think costumes are a great idea too.:+1:


When my oldest was 3, she insisted on being called Thomas (for Thomas the Tank Engine) and on only wearing blue clothes.

Her preschool teacher took it in stride and I happily bought her a lot of blue clothes (as she had a brother 2.5 years younger). Within 2-3 months, she moved on, and I eventually was able to use the clothes for her brother.


I would not discourage dress up in whatever he wants to dress up in. But we don’t leave the house in our dressup clothes. At four, he probably is just interested in your clothes because you are his mom and you are his source of comfort and security. He probably emulates Moana because Moana is awesome. (PS. My almost 2yo loves Moana too.) Unlike other posters, I don’t think that he needs more Disney character role models. As long as he has a real life male role model (and I’m presuming his dad is in his life as you haven’t said otherwise) he will naturally begin wanting to emulate him instead. It’s natural for a very young child to relate more with him mother than father, but I would expect that to change pretty soon. He’s getting to a more independent stage of childhood.


I agree with you that real life male role models are the best bet. I don’t think scrambling around to fine Disney role models is the answer.


I wasn’t scolding him before, but then my mom kept saying,”it’s an abomination for a man to dress as a woman,” and I said, “in some cultures men wear skirts or whatever,” and she said, “not in our culture, so it’s against the Bible for him to do that”. It made me feel like I was really doing him a disservice by allowing this play. That’s why I asked here.


One of my nephews was about that age and wanted to wear everything in pink,my sister eased him into wearing more
red or orange colours over time.He’s a very masculine teenager now

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