Hi, as you can probably tell, I’m pretty new to this forum.
I have a twin sister (we’re both 15) and she has a boyfriend who couldn’t be more Catholic. We are Catholics ourselves, we go to mass every Sunday, but do not agree with some beliefs of the church. Our parents want us to have faith in a religion, not necessarily Catholicism, and when I’m older I assume I’ll stay Christian but not Catholic. I have been through a lot in my short life and I disagree with too many Catholic teachings.
But enough about me! My sister’s boyfriend is so compassionate and caring and just an all around great guy. They’ve been dating for a while and have been respectful of each other and truly love one another (don’t tell me that they don’t, you don’t know them :)). The thing is, I think that he makes her feel bad about her personal relationship with God. We don’t really believe in penance (if you feel bad about it, just pray!) but he insists that she goes with him more often because she has a lot of sin. That’s just one example.
My issue is that I am worried that he wouldn’t be dating her if she wasn’t Catholic. I personally don’t think your faith should be the main definition of who you are. I’m concerned that he thinks her faith is the best quality she has, even though she’s not a “good” Catholic. I just don’t know what to think of this whole situation. Any thoughts?