This is a tough one. We just got married September 30th. We want to start our own traditions with respect to the holidays. Not all of them, just Thanksgiving for now. My DH and I will be hosting Thanksgiving at a friend’s house for about 6 people. We are very excited about this, and had a great time shopping for all the cooking supplies last night.
Well - for the last 5 years I’ve been spending this holiday with my Dad at his brother-in-law’s house. He is re-married (27 years now). At the Thanksgiving meal there are about 30 people, from the in-law side as well as the sister-in-law’s family. The only person in the room that I’m related to is my Dad.
He’s not happy that we aren’t spending the holiday with them. But frankly, I never have truly enjoyed myself, which is perhaps a horrible thing to say. I only went to be with my Dad. Well, this year my husband and I want to do what makes us happy, and that is to have dinner with friends. We will visit my Dad over the long holiday weekend, so it’s not like we won’t see him at all. But he’s still not happy that we won’t be there on Thursday.
So - how did any of you deal with the whole breaking from tradition thing when you got married? Was it difficult, or did family understand that you are now your own family and will start your own traditions? It’s certainly not easy, that’s for sure.