I know how you feel. I’m also a middle-aged single woman with whom people refuse to make eye contact even when I’m the first to smile a greeting outside of church.
As for the alleged “cure-all” of joining groups and becoming an active member of the church? Been there, done that …doesn’t work for me when it comes to making friends. Have been a member of various ministries, including Christ Renews His Parish, … even hosted a Christmas party in my apartment for the women of the parish!
So, do I have cooties? Not at all. For some reason, Protestants like me. I seem to attract friendly Methodists, for one thing. There’s a friendly Seventh Day Adventist in my apartment who’s always happy to talk with me … maybe the fact that he’s an unmarried single helps. I’m even friends with a Jehovah’s Witness who is risking getting in trouble with her Elders for being friends with a Catholic who will never convert.
My close Catholic friend I met here on CAF.
After discovering that Donut Sundays don’t work for me even when I’ve been the first one to approach people and start socializing, I simply began going out in nature after Mass with my camera to take landscape shots. And guess what? I’m now a fine art nature photographer! My artwork has been published in a magazine and a trail guide, been given an award (first prize for a piece called “Intergalactic Scenic Overlook”) at an art gallery exhibition, and is on sale online and through brick-and-mortar consignment shops.
As for trying a different church, in my own experience, I’ve found they’re pretty much the same, except for a small country church in Virginia … If I lived there, it seems like I’d have friends … people are just friendlier in smaller towns from what I’ve seen. If I could move to a small town like that, I’d love to.
If you like, saturn_jupiter, you’re always welcome to send a Private Message to say “hi” so we can get to know each other better.
~~ the phoenix