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I agree marriage should be "for life" and divorce is a horrible thing that leave many people deeply wounded...But allowing people to be forgiven and to be able after that to start fresh and be allowed to receive the Eucharist is a must.
One can be a fervent Catholic without ending up a "21 century Pharisee"...Mercy should be extended to the victims of divorce that have remarried and to those who initiated a divorce "during a spiritual desert time" in their life but have now turned around and live in righteousness...
Again, our Lord would say "who is without sin, cast the first stone"....none of us is without sin....
Being merciful doesn't mean that we welcome "sin" neither that we say "it is ok to divorce"; our Lord was criticized by the Pharisees because He was not going by "the book", because He was even going against the "commandments" like in the case of the adulterous woman..."the Law of God" was demanding that she'd be stone to death...Still, our Lord extended mercy, and out of His compassion He didn't stone her (Him, the One without sin could have rightfully casted the 1st stone....) neither did He condemn her!
Should we not follow in His footsteps?
Articles and posts like this make me both sad and a bit angry...
Yes, our dear Lord forgave the woman caught in the act of adultery; but most people ignore the last part: "Go and sin no more." He called her to repentance. He didn't say, "Hey I understand. You can't help it. Go and keep sleeping with that man who isn't your husband." :eek:
The gospel was not meant to be a touchy-feely happy little self-help book. Consider these words of our Lord:
*"34 Do not think that I came to send peace upon earth: I came not to send peace, but the sword. 35 For I came to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. 36 And a man's enemies shall be they of his own household. 37 He that loves father or mother more than me, is not worthy of me; and he that loves son or daughter more than me, is not worthy of me. 38 And he that takes not up his cross, and follows me, is not worthy of me. 39 He that finds his life, shall lose it: and he that shall lose his life for me, shall find it." *
Following Christ certainly is not for pansies!
Marriage is not a right, it's a vocation. Those who divorce and remarry outside the Church are making their own choices -- nobody is forcing them.
I have a friend who is the single mom of three teenage children. She wouldn't even consider dating until and unless she received a decree of nullity. It took about two years. And guess what? Waiting didn't kill her! She devoted herself to the raising of her children, and to healing from her ex-husband's abandonment of the familly.
My decree of nullity was a simple matter of paperwork (it's called "lack of form") and only took a couple weeks. That was over five years ago, but I've only been on a couple dates. Why? Because I can see that what my eight-year-old son needs is a relationship with his mom and his dad, and no step-parents. And guess what? Celibacy hasn't killed me!
People don't "accidentally" fall in love and then "have to" get married. They make a choice, and then another, and then another.
Please stop treating divorced people as if they are so weak and helpless that they couldn't possibly follow the true teachings of the gospel. :mad: Sometimes the events of this life totally stink. But God's grace is enough for each person to keep following Him. We must not use the hardships of this life as an excuse for throwing down our crosses and following the ways of the world instead of God's ways.
As for those who have already divorced and remarried... Of course they should be treated with love and respect. At the same time we should not mince the teachings of our Church to make things easier in this life at the risk of an eternity of separation from God. I pleaded and joked with a good friend for years to "get right with God" and this summer she and her husband are finally getting their marriage convalidated in the Church :extrahappy:
We must encourage each other to cleave to Christ in every situation. We must remind each other that this life is short. We must point each other to our eternity, offering up the difficulties of this life for the hope of eternity in the love of God.