[quote="dconklin, post:14, topic:216747"]
Being a guy, I know 'thank yous' are difficult. My mother always wrote thank yous, my wife writes thank yous. Many men fear showing any emotion to people other than their mothers and wives - even if it simple gratitude.
Other than one friend, I know of no men who actually write out thank yous. This not give us guys a valid excuse - it is just who we are. Was it mailed to them or hand given? What kind of throws were they? Were they painstakingly crocheted or were they fleece and have their favorite team's logo on them? Give us a new accessory for our grill or the latest action hero movie and the response may be different. That's just who we are.
I do not understand the line about not trusting her. Your mom or your sister? If it is your sister, you have written her off and she knows it. Loosing your trust over unwritten thank yous seems a bit harsh.
But then again, I am a guy - and it's who I am.
I don't think she's lost trust over the thank you. I think the trust issue with the sister was raised in answer to the obvious question: Why don't you ask your sister if they got the gift and if they liked it? The answer is: Because I cannot trust that this will be a simple direct communication in which I get a simple straight answer. I wish this were a rare situation in families.
If you get a gift and can give a verbal thank you, fine. Otherwise...if someone takes the trouble to send a gift, it is not too much to let them know that you got it and appreciate that they were thinking of you. Write, call, say something when you see them, but acknowledge the gift. This does not put anyone in an emotionally vulnerable position.
I am terrible at writing thank you's sometimes, not because they are difficult but because I get some idea that the reply needs to be some big deal. It does not. A prompt and simple thank you is much better than a "better" one that is late. Better to send them right away than to have to send an apology with the thanks. I am thinking that this aunt/in-law would be happy with a phone call that actually came from the recipient, too. No stamp involved, no stationery, and not a lot of time. It's just a matter of doing it. There is nothing on the "Y" chromosome or the modern socialization of males that prevents that.