[quote="drummergirl, post:1, topic:249565"]
Hello! I'm new to this forum and I needed some advice. I'm not sure where else this post would go, but I thought I'd try it here. :)
My brother-in-law, Tom, has always been Catholic. He started dating this girl, Deb. Deb is Baptist and she doesn't like Catholics, and yet she is dating one. The family can see that Deb is manipulating Tom into leaving them and the Faith. The family asked me to write some e-mails explaining the faith since I know a lot about it. I tried to answer his questions about the Faith (Why priests can't marry, the Transubstantiation, Why pray to Mary, etc.), but I know he never even read the e-mails. Deb has all of these ideas on what Catholics believe and it is totally not true (We are cannibals, We worship statues, etc.) Deb is also trying to convince Tom to move far away. Tom is not mature yet. It seems like Deb is doing Tom's thinking for him and not letting him make his own decisions. This is really upsetting my husband and his family.
I guess I was needing some advice on what to do now. I certainly don't want him to leave the Catholic church, and I don't know what else to say to him. He was Catholic and went to church every Sunday before he met Deb. I don't think he goes to mass anymore, but rather goes to Deb's church. I just don't want to force him into it; I just want to show him what he would be leaving if he were to convert, but he just doesn't seem to grasp it. Thank you for any responses! It is greatly appreciated. God bless!
First, let me point something out to you: Deb is a whore. Not in the sense of sex for money, but in the sense that she is selling herself into a relationship with someone she isn't REALLY interested in, in order to get him to pay back by converting away from the faith based on her false witness against the church. You might tell her that using her body to entice someone away from the church other than for licit reasons to enter a relationship is morally degenerate. She's no different than any other man or woman that uses their body to get what they want.
Second, your brother in law... is he going to mass? Is he going on retreats? Has he listened to anything by Tim Staples or Scott Hahn or other apologists on why they, prominent baptists/pentecostals/etc turned away from the same false witness as this "Deb" is promoting?
I would encourage your brother with this: he needs to be ABSOLUTELY certain before he leaves the church. He needs to investigate her claims resolutely. It's entirely possible that he will convert, she'll break up with him (having earned what she wanted out of the "relationship") and he'll realize that she was a lying harlot all along... then after his return to the faith of the church he will have to accept the fact that at one point he sold out God's church for a pair of legs.
(and before I get guff, I have been through no less than two relationships where I was told upon being dumped that "I didn't convert fast enough" (the first) and the second "she had only dated me because she thought she could convert me" (the second). It happens, some sects and denominations encourage their members to proselytize through getting involved in relationships. It's disgusting and immoral if you ask me)