I’m so happy to find this forum. I wondered if I could get your thoughts on a family problem.
We have two kids, 15 and 12. I’ve largely been a stay-at-home mom, other than working part-time from home for a handful of years.
Several years ago, my husband quit his professional job to start a .com company. That failed. He took his professional job back, only to be laid off. He said he could not find work in his field (and didn’t want to find work in another), so he started another business. He was gone a lot when the kids were little, but moreover, because we were in such financial strain, we sold the business three years ago. After paying off SO much debt, we only had a little bit of money left over.
With that little money, he started another company, though I begged him to find other professional work (so that we could start a savings, take vacations, and not get into debt). He insisted the business would take off, but it didn’t. We saw marriage and financial counselors. Long story short, I decided to stay in our marriage for the sake of the kids and try to help with the business. This was my way of trying to save our marriage. (If you can’t beat them, join them. ) We currently have two businesses.
This isn’t working. We argue quite often about how to run them but the financial strain is more than I can bear anymore. He finally has agreed to sell both…so we’ll see what happens. I can already see the resentment building in him. I have been hard on him because we never had to be in this situation as a family. I told him I understand his resentment, because that’s how I’ve been feeling over the last several years.
I’ve asked God to intervene…help us get at least one of the businesses sold and save our marriage…but things are getting worse. I’ve read that God sometimes can’t intervene during financial hardships when money has been mismanaged in the past. In our case, my husband started businesses with no capital.