Called to the religious life at 29 but have some bumps


I’m being called to the religious life but I’m not catholic (done RCIA five times) and I’m not debt free. I will be in three years.

I’m excited and terrified at the same time, but what should I do. I know I should finish RCIA and be debt free, but I’m also a mental health person ( I have Borderline Personality Disorder and I take meds for it)

My age is 29 and I’m a female.

This is exciting for me to tell, but I’m really not sure that I want to follow God’s path even though it has been over 10 years for this calling.

Please pray and help me if this is possible.


Our Father
Hail Mary
Glory Be


Becoming Catholic has to be a first move before discerning a call to the religious life.


The fact that you’ve done RCIA five times suggests you need to sit on this for a long time. You need to have your mental heart in order; that’s priority one.


RCIA Five times
Debt free in 3 years
Borderline Personality Disorder
Tugged to religious life but don’t want it

Are you Christian?
Have you been tested for Autism Spectrum Disorder?
Have you been diagnosed with attention deficit disorder?
Do you have a spiritual director?
What’s been attracting you to religious life?
If you don’t want to respond to God, why are you here?

Mrs Cloisters OP
Lay Dominican


Are you Christian? Yes been baptized
Have you been tested for Autism Spectrum Disorder? Yes no I don’t have it
Have you been diagnosed with attention deficit disorder? Nope don’t have add
Do you have a spiritual director? sort of (no one else knows about this)
What’s been attracting you to religious life? The peace of mind within God
If you don’t want to respond to God, why are you here? cause he is God making the respond possible for me


Thanks for the response. My apologies for the last line. Didn’t mean to come across with a sledgehammer.

What’s the issue with RCIA?

What kind of religious life are you being called to? Active or contemplative?


I really know once I become catholic I have to move on this. I don’t want to cause it is so scary. I don’t know if that makes sense. The 180 change in life and being someone who I don’t even think I can be. I don’t know if sister or nun is for me yet, still waiting on that answer. I prefer nun, but don’t know yet what God prefers.


Well, that’s certainly a good attitude to have. You’re 29 now, and most convents have a cut-off age of 35. So, why don’t we make RCIA a goal so we can get the 3-year waiting period out of the way?

I don’t know where you are located, so I can’t suggest a Cloistered retreat with the Visitation. Make some convent visits, and see how each one feels.


There is one at the church I go to. It is sisters three. I was going to talk to them on Wednesday at mass if th hey are you there. Rcia starts Sept 6.


Good place to start. Let’s stick with the plan, if at all possible. Would like to know what order the Sisters belong to. What other orders are in your area?


Immaculate heart of Mary in Kansas

And there are a few nuns about an hour away within a monastery and other sister covenants but all I know is the one in my town. Also I don’t have transportation to the towns in an hours unless by bus. So it is possible but requires time which I have little of due to a full time job. Like I said though it is going to be at most three years to pay my debt. So I have a little time to see them.


Excellent order. There’s a new community known as the Servants of the Trinity in Kansas, too.

Save up your pocket change, and check bus schedules. That’s how I traveled to convents.


Yep that is what I would do. I haven’t heard of the servants of trinity. I’ll look into it. I know I will have to leave my town. So the further probably the better. I have no family support. I’m keeping the faith though.


You’ll know when you walk onto the premises that you’ve found the right one. Just listen and “take notes”.

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