I have a question about when a person is considered an alcoholic. My dh has been drinking to much as far as I am concerned, but then I drink every little. When my dh and I got married, he didn’t drink much either. I know of only two times he got so drunk in the military, but he gets really sick the next day and so this has always detered him from drinking. He is also on a lot of medications, like for parkinsons and depression, that this too has kept the alcohol drinking to a minimal. If we had a bottle of rum in the house it lasted for 6 months or so.
That has changed. He has been drinking every single night in the last two months. He drinks rum and coke and then two beers. I realized this month how much. We went last month on the third to a military base where we do our major grocery shopping. He bought two big bottles, 1.75L, of rum. It is now the 11th of February and he had to go buy another bottle of rum because he drank the other two bottles. He also hide the empty bottles but I found them and I saw that he bought a new bottle tonight for a big brown bag was in our garbage can. When I asked if he bought a new bottle, he denied it, but them I mentioned the brown bag and he just smiled. He also has the beer hiden somewhere in the garage and takes out some at a time to put them in the refrigerator. He says he hates that I nag him about something he enjoys. He says I nagged him about cigarette smoking until he quit and now the drinking which he says he doesn’t have a problem.
I have tried to discuss this with him, but he has a temper and gets really angry and says I am just overreacting. When we do argue about something else, not about the drinking, he will say something like this, “You wonder why I drink!” He has a personality that gets addicted to things fast. He was abused as a child and I guess it is his way of coping. He is drawing closer to God, but slowly. He has been or is addicted to these: pornography, smoking, TV, movies, food, pain medications, and excessive buying and spending.
I am concerned, but he is not. I can’t seem to discuss this with him without an arguement. I don’t know if he is already considered an alcoholic. He has increased the intake over the months. He also has two alcoholic brothers, and two cousins who are also alcoholics. They are all recovering alcoholics with the exception of one brother.
Is he an alcoholic or on his way there?