[quote="TheRealJuliane, post:16, topic:232170"]
I have no idea why you don't want children, but I suggest you deal with that issue or those issues immediately via therapy. Most people who say they don't want children have come from abusive childhoods themselves and can't imagine how they can ever be good parents if they themselves had such horrible parents.
Your hypothetical situation where you are chosen to adopt a baby that would otherwise be aborted? You're twisting yourself into knots. Why would you not want to have your own children, or at least be open to having God's children, and yet be open to adopting a relative's baby?:confused:
Being open to life is a wonderful thing. It truly is unitive, and contraception is divisive. There is just no way around it. If God had wanted us to use contraceptives, they'd have been built in. They weren't, so..."Go forth and multiply."
well said. without my reasoning, how I came up with that hypothetical question is confusing. I wanted to propose a a marriage scenario that at least followed along directive of "Marriage and conjugal love are by their nature ordained toward the begetting and educating of children" even though that is not personally how I feel, I figured it's at least half a step in the right direction.
side note: I had a perfectly fine childhood. no abuse whatsoever. my parents are happily married, we all get along fine, there is no bad blood, i've never had any issues like that.
That being said, here's my reasons, although I don't want them to be the center of discussion which is why I did not get into them in my original post:
1) kids are annoying to me
2) i love dogs. any mothering instinct i have is expressed through taking care of my dog
3) i think it's narcisstic to want one's own children when there are so many out there who already who need parents. (like, what, your genes are so awesome, you think you're better than them?)
4) on the subject of genes...mine suck. my mom passed on her slow metabolism, frizzy hair, and bad skin to me. those characteristics of mine have caused me a lot of anguish. I know those problems pale in comparison to others but that doesn't make me like them any more! anyway, why would i purposely bring a child into the world who will most likely be as miserable as me with their physical appearance?
5) i take several medications. they cannot be taken while pregnant. I have tried stopping each of these medications individually under my doctor's direction and every single time the symptoms returned within a few days. (although i was on like 9 and now I'm only on like 6 bc 3 I was able to stop without the return of symptoms). in other words, either my baby would come out deformed or damaged, or I would spend the entire pregnancy very very sick. not to mention, the illness is genetic, and could likely be passed on to this poor kid.
I could actually go on and on but that's enough for now.