My fiance and I are starting RCIA in the fall and we hope to enter the Church this upcoming Easter. We’ve been attending mass for quite some time, almost a year, and we’ve fallen in love with the Church and the richness of her theology and tradition, so we know what we’re getting into. Of course, we want to get married in the Catholic Church.
My father is a Protestant minister in the Presbyterian Church USA. He’s very supportive of our conversion, however. Despite his disagreements on doctrine, he has a lot of respect for the Church, and the other day he even told me he probably has more in common with the Catholic hierarchy than he does with his own denomination (PCUSA is going the way of the UCC and the Episcopal Church and becoming increasingly theologically liberal).
There’s one problem though: I’ve always thought he would officiate at my wedding; I never anticipated converting to another Christian faith. My dad has told us he would be fine with not playing a role in our wedding if it’s against Church law, but I would be crushed if he couldn’t do anything at all. I spoke with the priest at the parish we are planning on joining about this, and he said he would be fine with my father playing a large role in the wedding (non-Gospel Scripture readings, homily, his own prayer), and even with him leading us in saying our vows as long as the Bishop okays it. Of course, the priest would consecrate the Eucharist and lead us in celebrating the mass. But I’m not sure if this is correct, especially because the Church views marriage as a sacrament and my father does not. My dad has co-officiated in Catholic/Protestant weddings before, but I don’t know if the Church allows that in a wedding of two Catholics.
Can anyone tell me if Canon Law addresses this situation, and if there really is a loophole if the minister is a relative? Our parish priest is very orthodox and I trust him, but I want to make sure that he is not in error.