OK, I am not going to propose marriage; I have been happily married for 25+ years. I'ts just something I've wondered. Can a woman propose marriage? If not, why not? Is this a Catholic teaching or just a cultural idea/norm?
Technically, I did do this when dh and I were dating. We talked about everything, including the possibility of marriage, what it would be like, having kids, etc. One day when we were discussing it, I just asked him. It wasn't something I planned or anything. He said, "You can't ask me! I have to ask you!"
A couple weeks later he did ask me...but it wasn't much of a proposal. He just spontaneously said, "Let's get married." He didn't plan it either. We both knew it was what we wanted; the proposal was more of a formality than anything.
When we had been dating for a while, my mother once asked me, "Do you think you'll marry him?" I told her, "We've talked about it." She was shocked, as if she couldn't imagine such a thing. "TALKED about it??? What is there to talk about?" In her world, the man just "pops" the question and the woman breathlessly says, "YES!" (or refuses). No talking about it needed. I think that may be a difference between the generations.
Anyway, what do you think? And why?