I am getting married to a Catholic woman. I was raised Catholic, and so I know that the church still considers me one, but other than being raised in a nominally Catholic family, Catholicism has played no role in my life. I don’t believe in God, but neither do I hold any animosity towards the church like a lot of ex-Catholics.
My future wife wants a full Catholic mass, which I am happy to do. The one sticking point is that the mass will involve communion. Although I don’t believe, I feel that out of respect I should not take communion. Neither my wife nor the priest are happy about this. The priest says it’s not possible and that if I don’t want to take communion, we have to do a wedding outside of mass which my fiancee refuses to do.
Is that correct? Should I try to find another priest who will allow it?