I am new here so I hope I am doing this right. I am in need of advice regarding my wife. We have been happily married for 10 years and have several young children…all within 5 years of each other. Up until this past 9 months or so things between us have been pretty good. Lately though it seems that she and I are growing apart…at an alarming rate I may add. I work a ton of hours and am not much help at home (i.e. I average about 4 hours of sleep a night.). She stays at home with the kids all day which I admit would be very tough. She has been complaining lately of being “trapped” in her situation so I have been squeezing in some alone time for her, unfortunately this has gotten carried away. As soon as I get home it seems as if she is ready to walk out the door. And not for a couple hours I might add…the average time out is about 6-7 hours and she may come in at 2 AM…I forgot to mention that she goes out by herself. She says that she is going shopping or movies or harmless things like that but there have been a couple of things I have found that point otherwise. (I seriously don’t think she is cheating but this situation makes the mind wonder!).
Now I have addressed my concerns with her which usually ends up with her getting mad at me saying that I am holding her back or trying to stifle her which is not true. I just want protect our marriage! Now I am accustomed to getting the short end of the deal. She has always been a seriously self fulfilling individual but this has gotten carried away! The worst part is that it is starting to impact our children. She is viewing them as “roadblocks” to her “freedom”. They are noticing this,along with other changes in mommy and have begun to ask me questions like " Daddy why is mommy always mad at me?" or “Daddy does mommy still love us?”. Now she tells us every day that she loves us but her actions don’t show it. Oh…to quantify time out…last month she was out on her own 9 times…and did I mention my average sleep time? I am getting worn out!
Any advice/prayers are welcome!