I am an atheist who wishes to marry a practising Catholic in Peru, South America. I have already posted a couple of questions on the “Ask an Aplogist” site. My questions were concerning the possibility of marrying my Catholic fiance in a Catholic church as she and her family would wish, and on my concerns on what it would mean for our children to be brought up as Catholic. I am very grateful with the answers recieved which were thoughtful and respectful. I myself have a lot of respect for the Catholic church which is increasing with my experience on this forum.
I have another need for information which I thought I’d mention on this “Family Life” category. I feel that perhaps the Apologists would like to devote more time to serving actual Catholics than people like me. My question will also give others a chance to give me their perspective on my situation - which I would welcome.
How can I find out what the statements of the Catholic wedding ceremony will be? Is there are set text or does it vary from country to country, parish to parish. How much flexibility is there the wording?
I will be going to the city we wish to marry in in two weeks and am already building up the courage to speak to the local priest. I’m not sure I will by able to get hold of an actual text of the ceremony there or not. I doubt if it is a common request.
I really need to know what statements will be made on my behalf, or which statements I will need to make in reply to what etc,
I can imagine I would have to say something like “in the name of the holy spirit…” and will therefore have to decide how honest I am being in saying this as an atheist. So, in addition to this it would be really helpful to know what other statements I might have to say and what is the “standard” if there is one for a Catholic wedding ceremony.
Please forgive my ignorance on this matter and thanks for your patience.