all right i have a question on being a lay number of the salesian community can i be one on my own or do i have to join the community
The easiest and quickest way to a correct answer would be to ask the Salesian Lay Missioners at there web site which I have linked here.
I have a friend who is in formation, or whatever with this group. She has someone who was assigned to her as a spiritual friend. It has been about four months since I talked to her about it, but she was really enjoying the educational part, etc.
So, I need to find out more from her, but was just letting you know.