Dear brothers and sisters in humanity and in Christ,
I have just changed my religion to ‘Christian’ from ‘Catholic’. I want to be Catholic but there are some issues, and I would appreciate your attention on this matter, if you have some throughts to share out of love.
I was baptized in the Church of England, and confirmed a Lutheran, but purely for family reasons. I considered myself Christian, and did not care to think too much about denominations.
Fast forward to now, and in late 2010 I moved to Korea out of love for a woman who became my wife in March 2011. She was divorced and Buddhist. At the start of this year, I felt an increasing need for Christ, especially following the birth of our baby. I had been quite spiritually open, while always keeping Jesus in my heart. But I lacked any practical devotion. My wife said the only Christian church she would consider going to would be a Catholic one (Evangelical Protestants don’t have a great reputation among Buddhists in Korea).
Anyway, a few months on, and I am at a crossroads. We have been attending a lovely parish catering for foreigners, and I have been fully embracing Catholicism. Yet, the only way I can fully take part in the Eucharist, according to my priest, is if my wife converts to Catholicism. We have also been told to put our baby’s baptism on hold. This is because she is divorced. As it turns out, my wife now is also embracing Catholicism.
BUT, firstly her conversion is not guaranteed, she is still learning. Secondly, I feel uncomfortable that the only way I can effectively be fully welcomed into Catholicism is if my wife converts?
Is Christianity, including Catholicism, not all about forgiveness? Who are we to judge the sins of others?
Moreover, I want my baby to be baptized, ideally in the Catholic Church.
This issue is dragging on, and even though my wife has declared her intention to convert, there is no instruction currently available for her at our parish, so she is effectively learning at home, which is not really that effective.
Please tell me why we should not consider a Christian denomination that will accept us, including our past sins, and allow us to joyfully take part in parish life without feeling like outsiders in quarantine. At least may I not be able to receive the sacraments while my wife takes her time, particularly considering I have only sincerely discovered Catholicism since my marriage and since my baby was born.
Thank you for your time.