What I really want addressed is point 1 which I quote here
- Talk less.
Well okay, talk all you want about your dreams, ambitions and Egypt’s future. But when it comes to nagging reminders about what your spouse still has to do after a long day working for the man—take out the recycling, walk the dog, write a thank-you letter, defrost the chicken, fix the stereo—keep a lid on it. Economists talk about “information processing costs,” or the costs incurred from processing, absorbing and filtering information. When information processing costs get too high, we tend to become paralyzed. Like when we get to the kitchen-cabinet department at IKEA, and we’re so overwhelmed that we decide to skip the whole thing and just have a plate of meatballs at the café then head home for a nap.
Overloading your spouse with what you consider to be perfectly valid information is a bad idea. One thing at a time, friends, and the most important thing first. Same rule applies when you’re arguing. Stick to the point—he didn’t call to say he was running late—and don’t tick off the long list of sins he’s committed since last Tuesday.
My take - it seems my wife gets very upset with me as I can't recall details about what she has conveyed to me.
Here is a perfect example. Several days ago she told me that I was to have some left over chicken, and the kids were to have leftovers. I think this was on the 14th. Today the kids asked me if they could have grilled cheese and soup for lunch and I said ok. My wife then returned home from an appointment and got upset that I did not recall this.
Now I of course feel terrible about this, but I feel that the problem isn't all my ability to have complete recall of everything she said, but rather her expectation for me to have perfect recall of everything she said.
Do other couples have this same problem?