[quote=mariainman]. I took you advise and talked to my parish priest. He told me it was a dilemna but that he thought that I should go. He said that I should leave the door open so that she could come back in time. I am grateful for all your responses. I think I will go. I know my husband would want me to be there, so I should honor his wishes since it is not against the Church to go.
I really just want to do the right thing and this is one occasion that I am not sure what is right.I will pray for guidance. Thanks again for all the input.
I could not do it. The priest will not live with this; you will. Throughout the rest of your life, even if things work out later, you will remember what you went through, and you and you alone will have this empty feeling.
This will be true, even if she formally renounces her Catholic faith, in which case, of course, you could attend the wedding - small consolation - but the sadness will remain. There is just no good way to put a happy or even contented face on this.
One thing I know: All the many times in my life that I “went along to get along” to keep the peace have been pointless. Each compromise, each concession just made it easier for the compromise and concession demanders to ask a little more, to press a little harder.
And I think that it wasn’t love for my family, but rather self-love that motivated me.