mlchance, thanks for the advice. sure i much prefer to refuse any other baptisms. i’m just looking for information whether it’s possible, in case my bf’s church can’t allow marriage without Protestant baptism. if it’s really not possible in any way for Catholic belief, then we’ll surely talk about this further.
puzzleannie, i’m not okay at all with rejecting my Catholic beliefs. i’m just okay to follow his Protestant rules, AS LONG AS it won’t cause any problems with my Catholicism.
the problem is, i haven’t understood very deeply about Catholicism itself. that’s why i need to study further and gather information from anywhere.
and i guess my bf understands even less about Catholicism, he asks to follow their rules because he also thought it was okay for my Catholic belief. now that we know it’s really not okay, i’ll talk to him. from how i know him all this time, i think he will consider it for my own good as well, so we’ll try to solve this together.
about kids, we haven’t really talked about this, because we thought it was still a matter far in the future. and just like other Catholic/Protestant couples, there must be a way. but now i think we better begin to talk about this, discuss it with both Catholic and Protestant priests.
simon x, yes i’ll talk to him first then we’ll talk to our priests.
SuspiceMeDomine, same answer with the above 2. i think i’ll start discussing about children with him, and discuss this matter with both priests
jwashu, maybe not Protestant priest. sorry i don’t know what’s the exact English word for them. maybe Protestant minister as you said. well actually it was me who started this topic with him, and it was me who said “okay, i’m fine with marrying in his church, as long as everything’s fine for my Catholic belief”. i decided it because of his Protestant priest/minister father, his whole family are Protestants. besides none of my family members are Catholics, i’m the only Catholic in my family. most of my relatives are also Protestants. that’s why i made such decision. but if their rules are not right for my Catholicism, i’ll surely reject those ideas.
Orchanian, sure i’ll pray and ask God to give a way for us, and i’ll talk to my priest
armywife, i only know the indonesian name of his denomination, don’t know the english word for that. so, sorry i can’t tell you what denomination it is, but it’s just one of Protestant denominations.
dashso40, the problem is i’m the only Catholic in my family as well. but all my family, my bf and his family, are fine with my Catholic belief and they are also willing to find any ways so that my Catholic belief won’t be rejected with this marriage. about kids, i know maybe this is not right, so i won’t do it before talking to a priest first. but i have a thought, to let our kids learn about both beliefs themselves. we’ll take them to both churches, after all it’s not 100% different, both still believe in God and Jesus Christ. but we won’t give them babies baptisms, let them choose themselves when they’ve understood their own choices. but i’ll surely discuss it first with my priest. it’s just a thought for the moment.
kage_ar, if we can maybe we won’t give any babies baptisms to our kids, but we’ll still raise them in church. in fact, both churches. same explanation with the above. and it’s still a thought, which will surely be discussed further with our priests.
for all, thanks for the advice. well, yeah i’m the only Catholic in my family but i never mean to reject my belief in any ways. i’m still a little kid in Catholicism. that’s why i’m gathering information here to find a good way for both of us.
and yes, in the end, if there are really no way for both our beliefs to be together, then i’ll be really sad, but i’ll choose my belief, as nothing is more important than that. thanks all. God bless you