I had a wonderful job where I would say I was 9/10 happy most days. While it did not pay well and had some stress, it was rewarding work and I had a wonderful supervisor and many best friends. Each day was a ton of fun and I was very engaged.
I believe I had a period of desolation start (though I did not know about consolation and desolation at the time) when a high-performing rival was re-hired by my department and was saying negative things about my work. Shortly after a job posting appeared in a related department where I have knew nice people that looked like exactly what I wanted to do with my career and paid more.
I moved to the job and the desolation got worse with tears every day, a stricter and cold manager, and an unfriendly team. The job duties turned out to be far from the job description and I hardly ever get to see the friends I have in this department.
Can life choices like this that aren’t necessarily immoral cause desolation? Can making life choices during periods of desolation make it worse? Or is it just normal human adjustment?