Hi, I am new here and have been dealing with some issues and would like to have some feedback please. Understand I am fairly new to this forum thing. So please don’t be to harsh in your reply. I am being open and honest in my searching for answerer here.
I have a roommate who is my best friend and boyfriend. As I said roommate, that means no sex involved. And yes we plan to get married. Please don’t give me a lecture about co-habitation, I have already been to a Priest, and have been already shown what is in the CCC and in scripture. I know this is a gray area, and that co-habitation itself is not a sin. I am in my mid 40’s so please don’t treat me as if I am a young kid. This is not my first time around for me. Yes I am annulled, and am working closely with my parish priest on all issues concerning my co-habitation and future marriage.
My dilemma is this… I recently found out my boyfriend is chatting with other women on line (IM) and forums, cultivating friendships. This really makes me feel uneasy, and I told him I don’t approve of it. A couple times I got don right mad. He got defensive and told me I was the one with the problem, and it should not bother me at all if he has friendships with other women.
I agree to a point. It appears to me that some of these women are single. So I pointed that out and asked why he isn’t chatting with men instead. I haven’t gotten an answer yet. You would think that if he was committed to our relationship he would spend more time building us, rather that other relationships right?
I feel if he really Loves me, that he would take my emotions into consideration, and not search for women on line to chat with.
I don’t know, maybe the chaste thing is getting to him. After all we have both been married before. But I also am committed to not giving into that just to keep him focused on me. And I know he is committed to both of us being chaste. We are both practicing Catholics.
Maybe I am way out on a limb with my thinking here, and overreacting. It just really doesn’t sit well with me. I read just recently this statement “You cannot be faithfully committed to your relationship and keeping it indissoluble if you are having intimate conversations with another woman.” This statement is what really got me thinking, on this whole subject of emotionally cheating.
So now I am questioning even though he is not physically interacting with anyone, can this be a form of emotional cheating?
Thanks for your input.