We ask Mary for her intercession, we pray to and worship God alone. Jesus allowed Mary to intercede with him at the wedding feast at Cana. She begged him not to leave the host family with the embaressment of running out of wine. He basiscally said it wasn’t his business, and that his ‘time’ for miracles wasn’t yet. However he did as she asked. In that sense, he gave us permission to ask her to appeal to him for favors.
Mary, as you say, was a willing instrument.
I don’t know if it’s of any help, but when having difficulty in approach Mary as a Catholic newly returned in 1978, I found it difficult to approach Mary, I said to Jesus, “She is Your Mother, and You want us to love her. Please help me,” Then I went to the kitchen to write a family letter. Instead, I came to write ‘Dependence in prayer’ and this one. Next morning I read it and cried as I did each time that I prayed it for some while.
Woman of faith, pray for us
Dear Mother Mary, you have been honoured, blessed, and gifted by God. You are our mother because in figure of John, Jesus gave us to you as your children as He hung dying on the cross. We ask you to speak to God on our behalf.
It was through your faith that Jesus first manifested His power at Cana, thus beginning His work before the appointed time. Although it concerned neither life nor death, nor eternal salvation but the human feelings of others, He granted your trusting prayer. Such was your faith, and God’s love for you, Saint of all saints!
Therefore, we trust our prayer to Your faith in God!
You see everything that we need in service of God, and all that we desire for each other. You feel the aching of our hearts and hear our longing prayers. You behold our faith, our repentance, and our love.
Stand not silently by, Mother! Our Father, your Son, and the Holy Spirit who overshadowed you and blessed you with our Saviour—They cannot refuse you!
Please give us your unfailing intercession before God so that the fullest gifts and blessings are granted to each of us. We stand humbly before you, Mother, and entreat you with our hearts, minds, and spirits…Mother! April 1980