I have a sister who doesn’t practice any religion. I’m Catholic. She has now an occupation that compels her to be firm. She comes off as aggressive when she if off duty. It’s like she brings her occupation “home”. However, being religious like I am, I find it hard to accept her somewhat “mean” behavior even if she doesn’t mean it. I have had to ask her to rephrase her words, so that I could understand her better. The tone of her messages online for example is aggressive and mean sounding. In person, she is aggressive and I have had to stay calm when she is like that. She does make the effort to adjust herself only if I speak up.
Now, being religious means that we have a caring sensitivity toward the others and when someone like my sister doesn’t worship or exercise her faith like I do, a relationship with this person can be hard sometimes…quite “dark” from time to time. I have had to deal with my parents about this and am doing my best to avoid conflict because I want to keep our family united. I have had calm and intelligent discussions with her and she has adjusted herself to me somewhat, but it’s work especially when I have to manage something that includes her.
Her aggressive or mean behavior surfaces when there is a serious “chore” to do. For example, when I have to manage a task and I have to ask her help, it can be tough because we don’t work at the same pace. In her own job, she works alone and doesn’t have to share her work with anyone whereas I, have to. I have to think of others and work closely with others.
That said, my religious side makes the rapport between us tough because she can be direct whereas I, control myself in order not to hurt her feelings.
Any ideas on how to deal with a sister who is not a believer in a strict sense? How can I be a godly sister? How can I get her respect? She’s tough and her occupation encourages it. She’s on guard sometimes and needs help.
Can you help me?